When is it too much?

Before I let it all out, I want to congratulate Shell. It's the one year anniversary of Pour Your Heart Out. I can't believe it's been a year!

Make sure you check out some of the links. You can even do your own - there are prizes this week if you do to help celebrate!

Now onto my issues.....

Pour your heart out

Just a brief reminder that everyone linking is pouring their hearts out and we should all be respectful in our comments.

This reminder really shouldn't be necessary, but we're all aware that people can be disrespectful when they're hiding behind the screen.


This is my blog. Well, one of them. There are many like it, but this one is mine. Thanks to a lovely little thing called freedom of speech, I'm free to post what I choose. I am not a fan of drama nor do I like to hurt people. I have never written (nor will I ever) a post with the intent to do one or both of those things. Yet, that is exactly what happened.

The husband was lead to a post I wrote last week on my other blog. Do I care if he reads what I write? No. After all, he's the one that set up my other blog with a custom domain. Does he read my blog? Very rarely. But a few days ago he was directed to what was then my latest post.

He was anything but impressed. I didn't intend for him to be upset. Other SAHMs can most likely relate to the feeling of not having enough help, as was evident in the comments. The husband does more than enough for our family, but some days, I just want someone to take over my job. I don't care if it's Joe Shmoe from down the street!

What this all boils down to is my wondering what I should post and how much information I should throw out there.

When I started my other blog, All You Need is Love, I emailed friends and family and told anyone who would listen about it. I started this blog, Jules Out Loud, because there are some things I just don't feel comfortable having my family read. If any of them have stumbled upon this blog I am not aware of it. However I did have an incident a few weeks ago that made me think otherwise.

Someone searched for "Blog Evonne" and landed here. Yes, my name was in my profile at the time, but I don't use it on this particular blog. My other blog, where my real name is plastered on the bottom of every post, did not yield such a search result.

That really made me wonder who is reading what I have to say. I'm not savvy enough to figure out who searched that, but it did freak me out a bit.

Because we don't know who is reading and what could happen after hitting publish, how do we know when what we put out there is too much?


Oka said...

Unfortunately, I think any blogger who does not keep their blog completely private is at risk.

Brandy@YDK said...

it's crazy not realizing how many and who read our stuff. mine is linked up so many places that there is no way to know. I wish sometimes it was anonymous.

Shell said...

I know the feeling. It's hard to know what to put out there and what not to- even me, whose blog is anonymous(or as anonymous as it can be w/o making it invite-only), still wonders sometimes.

Charlene said...

I have in the past and probably will again (I'm sure) posted things about my family and my mom in particular got really mad at me. It's how I felt. And I think maybe reading (but probably not), might have made her realize just how hurt I was..I don't know.

Anonymous said...

I've thought the same thing ... and I, too, wish I had kept mine anonymous!

Jenn @ South of Sheridan said...

I went through this feeling this week too. It's scary to think that by being honest with our own feelings can come across as verbally bashing someone else . . . especially when that's the farthest thing from what we were trying to say.

Babes Mami said...

I wonder a lot who that I know reads and if they send crazies my way.

MommaKiss said...

one of my biggest fears. huge. oof - if my husband read? i'd be fired. from being his wife.

tiffany1377 said...

ugh...I worry about this too. I don't have an annonymous blog, but I don't twitter about it or link it to my facebook or tell any of my friends or family about it. I'm sure they could find it if they even knew it was out here to look for. The thought of my family reading my blog freaks me out and makes it pretty hard to be open. It's probably why some things I don't feel comfortable talking about. My post recent post is about as explict as I can manage to get. I'd love to have felt comfortable to go into detail, but the thought of my mom finding it? Eek!

Dysfunctional Mom said...

I don't think there was anything wrong with that post at all. I think you should be able to express your feelings on your blog, that's one of the reasons many of us blog.
I think ideally, our blog should be our place to express whatever we're feeling without worrying what anyone thinks. But once you have other people reading, you have to figure out what to censor.
So basically I'm no help at all. lol

Adrienne said...

I often wonder if I have blog creepers. I'm not totally anon, and sometimes I wonder.