My baby story - Part 1

I read many blogs. Some of those blogs are very inspiring. The authors tell stories of their life. They tell these stories from the heart.

I feel it's time for me to share one of my stories.

Thank you Shell, Ian, Erin, and Kmama for inspiring me and giving me the courage to share.


This is the story of my birth story.

My first birth story.


The year was 1996. 17 years old, enjoying my senior year in high school. I was dating a wonderful man. The man I would later marry.

We were teenagers and we did what the typical teenage couple does. I'm sure we can all relate. One thing leads to another. In the heat of the moment, we didn't think to grab any kind of protection. It won't happen to us.

But it did.


Telling my mom was one of the scariest things. Still living at home, I would have to deal with the repercussions from her daily. Not only was I scared about what would happen to me, I was also a little ashamed. Another knocked up high school girl. She used to be such a good kid. That's what they would all say.

My mom was very supportive, but she did stress that I needed to step up. She wouldn't be the one to make the doctor appointments for me, nor would she be the grandmother who raised her grandchild.

After I told her, telling my boyfriend, now husband, really wasn't that hard. To say he was shocked would be an understatement. Without even saying it, we both knew that abortion was off the table. We were going through a rough patch in our relationship at the time. We didn't know exactly what path we would take, but we did decide to work on us and make the decisions together. To this day, I am very grateful for that.

In the beginning, no one had to know what we were going through. We both knew other girls in our school in the same situation. We both had heard what others were saying about them. Some of those comments were good, but most were not.

I don't recall any negative comments once I was starting to show. Were things not said? I doubt that. Did my friends keep me from hearing the negative rumors? Most likely. If that is the case, I thank them for that.

I didn't really talk about my pregnancy outside of my close circle of friends, but I did have to tell my teachers. I was due towards the end of the school year. Since I would still be in school, I needed to figure out how to keep up with my work in order to graduate.

As my belly started to grow, it became more and more real that this was really happening to me. We needed to figure out a plan for when the baby was here. Panic was creeping in. We didn't know where we would live. Neither of us had good jobs. I worked at Burger King, and him, cleaning a bakery after school. That kind of money would make it difficult to buy a crib, formula, and god knows what else.

But as this panic started setting in, a plan started to take place.


To continue reading - Part 2







13 comments:

Kmama said...

I'm glad you decided to share. I hope it's therapeutic for you! (HUGS) I'm sure this is hard.

Brandy@YDK said...

I can't imagine how terrified you were. It's hard having a baby when you are "ready" so having one as a teenager - whew - that mustve been hard.

Jennifer Juniper said...

I feel your pain.. I wasn't in high school but I was still at home. Thanks for sharing, I can't wait for the rest.

Ian said...

I'm glad you decided to share and the fact that your then b/f is still your current day husband. Amazing story thus far, can't wait to read more.

Erin said...

Evonne,

I couldn't wait, so I took a break to come over. Standing ovation, girl! So proud of you for what you've done and shared here!!! Thank you for letting us in to see this side of yourself and I'm looking forward to the next installation.

From Tracie said...

How brave you were to do carry that child and face high school and the world at the same time.

Looking forward to part two.

angie said...

I cannot wait to read more. What a difficult situation this must have been.......and obviously you did wonderfully with. Now, don't leave us hanging for too long.....:)

~J said...

I so relate...I became a teen Mom around the same time. Nothing easy about it...can't wait to follow your story!

Shell said...

Wow, that must have been so tough! And tough to write, too. I want to hear more!

Kimberly said...

Wow. That must have been ridiculously hard to go through as a teen. There were a few girls that got pregnant in my highschool and I know what kinds of things were said. It's sad. But I am glad that you had such a great group of friends around you! I look forward to part 2!

An Imperfect Momma said...

Wow. That must've been so hard to go through. Thanks for sharing your story. Whats really awesome to hear is that your then boyfriend is your now husband. Cant wait to hear more

G.M. said...

I cannot wait to hear more, thanks for sharing your story.

kris said...

So brave and lovely to share this! And how awesome that you and your husband have made this work so fabulously despite the surprises and difficulties! Love that so much.

Can't wait to read the next installment!

Also? Your photo?

You are gorgeous, lady!