When is that time?

When is it acceptable to stop mourning our loved ones who have left us?

They say time heals all wounds, but I do not believe that to be true. I believe that, as time passes, our day-to-day becomes more manageable. We can see pictures of a loved one who's passed and smile. Fond memories have replaced the hurt and tears and confusion. But how much time does it take to reach that point?


Sometimes we think we have reached the point of being able to move on, but the forces that be turn us around and prove us wrong. The sound of their heart beating. The first picture. The coos, the smiles, and that baby fresh smell come flooding back. Little ones we called our angels have now grown their own wings. The Lord may give and the Lord may take, but that does not mean I understand.


To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven

A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep




This post is dedicated to my friends who now have angels watching over them.

"How very softly you tiptoed into my world. Almost silently; only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts." ~ author unknown


13 comments:

Kmama said...

Beautiful post. Sometimes it takes a lot of time, more time than you can ever imagine.

Pebz58 ★ said...

what a beautiful post!

I've pretty much gotten past the loss of our son at 19wks, but there are days when even a certain smell can have me bawling my eyes out! I think those things happen though so that we know it WAS real... you know what I mean?!

Stacey said...

I don't think time heals all wounds. I think that time gives you the coping mechanisms to deal with the loss and try to move forward. I lost my dad 10 years ago and it still hurts, but I've learned how to deal with the hurt.

Shell said...

I don't know if I'd ever get over a loss like that.

Sharyn said...

When we had to say good bye to my mother in law much too suddenly, a very wise man told me that we never get over it, we just get used to it...7.5 years later, I find that is still true for me.

Day 2 Day Living said...

I don't think that time heals at all. I think we learn to live with what happened.

Erin said...

sometimes, just when I think I've gotten over something, it hits me again. I think everyone is different, everyone grieves differently, and you can't put a time limit or anything on it....

lovely post, Evonne!

Liz said...

I'm sorry you have any friends who know that pain.

The Blue Zoo said...

I love that last quote.

Michelle Pixie said...

Beautiful post!

I don't believe time heals I just think it moves you further away from the person you lost and in my case can make you a little numb. I know when my dad died my world came crashing down and there are moments the thought of him being gone still brings me to my knees.

Papi KoRndOg said...

losing a loved one is never truly healed. I believe the amount of time it takes is up to you. I still miss my father something crazy and hes been gone for thirteen years, especially now that I am a father myself.
The hardest part I suppose is knowing when to stop punishing yourself as most people will do for a long time and build on your foundation of what you loved about them most. All something that takes time...all the time you need

JDaniel4's Mom said...

I think you always carry a little of it with you. There are things you want to share with them and will have to wait.

Sandra said...

Very nicely said.