Scrubbing desks

I have a secret.

One that I keep to myself
when away from immediate family.

I am not ashamed. In fact, I am quite proud.

I keep my secret to myself because of how it makes others feel.

My daughter is smart. Very smart. I am not saying this just because she is my daughter. I am not saying this so I can write a "my kid is better than yours" post. That's how she is.

She has always excelled in school. Homework has always been a breeze. A few teachers have told me she does things above her grade level.

I realize my daughter is different when I talk about these things to friends. Their child may struggle with certain subjects. Homework may take hours. I don't meant to compare our children. I don't mean to make them feel disappointed. But that is what happens.

Their child may get in trouble for not doing their work. My child gets in trouble for finishing her work too fast and drawing on her desk because she is bored.

I am incredibly proud of my daughter. I will continue to challenge her and push her to her full potential. I will try to work with her teacher so we can avoid future punishments.

But sometimes guilt makes me keep my proud secret to myself.

Pour Your Heart Out


Oka said...

You should be able to brag about her on occasion.

Kmama said...

It can be a fine line to walk to talk about her accomplishments without making others feel bad about their own children.

I'm sorry you feel like you can't share your pride...she is definitely something to be proud of.

Katie said...

Congratulations! You should be able to brag sometimes. My brother and I were smart like that (well, I guess we still are, we're just not in school anymore) and my mom had similar problems. She didn't talk about it to my aunt, who's daughter struggled. I think it used to bother her when my aunt would brag about my cousin's other strengths, and my mom would keep her mouth shut about ours. So go ahead a brag sometimes - you deserve it!

Shell said...

Be proud!

and maybe have her keep books at her desk to read when she's done with work? That is what I did when I was growing up and like that. ;)

You made me realize that it's been a while since I wrote a post about my Monkey... who is like your daughter. B/c I don't want to come across as bragging. and then there's the added difficulty of having another child who struggles so much. So, instead, I downplay.

we shouldn't have to do that.

Jenn [ Crippled Girl ] said...

You have every right to be proud of your daughter for her accomplishments. I guess its just a matter of knowing who you can brag to without hurting their feelings about their own child.

Chantel said...

I brag all the time about my boys. "B can boomerrng earthworms farther than anyone!" "S can shoot chicken soup out his nose ten feet!" See, maybe it's this sweet girl thing...? (did I mention N can blow up ants with a magnifying glass?)

Girl, every person on this planet is gifted in some way--and challenged in another. Being aware of both is what keeps us on the balance beam. :)

A Mother's Thoughts said...

You should ABSOLUTELY brag about your daughters accomplishments. What a gift! I understand we women can be the worst creature, but I think that sometimes pride can be set aside and you can vocalize your beautiful daughters brilliance!


Liz said...

I see why you try not to talk about it, but she and you deserve to tout it and praise her!

Best of luck working with her teacher this year!

Krista @ Not Mommy of the Year said...

Good for her! That potential and smartness are going to be such a blessing as she gets older. Also, I appreicate your sensitivity to others, but you deserve to praise your daughter's accomplishements too. Do it here, if you want! I'll listen.

Ed said...



Congrats on your egghead.